In this soul session, Kori vulnerably shares her journey with co-dependency and boundaries.  Inspired to dive deeper into the topic when she stumbles across Teri Cole’s Boundary Boss on a  bookshelf where she is housesitting in California.

Kori shares how she recently realized she is codependent.  Now, with the help of Terri’s book, she sees boundaries as a personal commitment to always tell her truth and for staying most soul-aligned.   Kori reveals her childhood wound of feeling unseen and unheard and links that to her current struggle to please others so they will continue to “choose” her.

Breaking the chains of codependency is so important because it is directly connected to our sense of self-worth.

Once you realize that telling your truth isn’t always “confrontation” and doesn’t always have to feel uncomfortable but is an opportunity to share your truth with others.

Kori talks about learning how to have relationships all over again, from scratch after what feels like the world’s longest isolation.

The first thing Teri guides us to do in her book Boundary Boss is to take a look at ourselves and create boundaries with ourselves for what we need and want for our lives. Because really, if you can’t keep a commitment to yourself, how the heck do you expect to commit to others.  so start within, what you need and want.  Then you will learn to voice those wants and needs to better meet them.  This is how we start to create authentic relationships with ourselves and therefore with others.

Kori tells us how meditation is the key to knowing this so-called “truth,” and now makes sure she nurtures care time for her to make herself feel good – by the COMMITMENT to the boundaries.   She talks about how she went from being a people pleaser running retreats to a full Sri Lankan hermit and is just now learning how to bring the needle back to the center and come back out into the world without going crazy.

“For the first time in my life, I am going to speak and live and be my truth all the more thank you to this book and these tools.”  Kori commenting Teri Cole’s Boundary Boss.

A few of the tools Kori discusses for doing:

1) meditation -learn to speak the language of your intuition.

2) Be honest and assertive – with grace and ease.

Kori talks you through how to figure your own self Boundaries:  physical, sexual, material, mental, relationships – to get you thinking about what you actually are ok with and not.  Because once you figure out how to be your best self by taking strong actions and making committed choices, then you are ready to speak, request and communicate with others.

Once you are good at this system – You can start to ask for the exact thing you want.  And get it with much more ease.  And no one is getting offended anymore.  Your relationships with others are not a direct reflection of you, but simply a supportive softness around you.

Kori’s journey will codependency was about learning to emotionally regulate by meeting her own needs.  She stands by the statement that “the main practice to get to know your honest true self is to meditate.”